When you become aware of an urge to watch porn ....

.... immediately shift the focus of your awareness onto other things. How and why?

Have you ever noticed how when you watch TV, you cease to focus on yourself and the things around you in the room? The seat of your concsiousness is in the TV - in the scene itself. It's as though nothing else exists and you are drawn in. We shift the seat of our consciousness away from ourselves and our immediate environment when we do that. That is all we have to do when subtle thoughts to watch porn drift into our consciousness. Shift the focus of our consciousness onto something else - something higher to raise our spirit- and the urge will disolve. However, the opposite is true: when we give the thought of the urge our attention we give it energy and when we do that, we manifest the thought of the urge into action.

I'll give other examples of shifting awareness. I wake at 4:45 am most mornings - I've done so fo many years - so I have a long day. I have breakfast by about 6:20 so by around 10:30-11am I'm usually getting hungry. Most days I eat lunch at my desk at around 11:15 - 11:30 I'm so hungy. The day before yesterday {Friday 10th] I was so busy working to meet a deadline, that I didn't eat until 3pm. I didn't notice that I was hungry and yet my body must have sent the usual signal to my brain to feed it. I was so focused on what I was doing that I didn't even notice the hunger pangs. On an extreme level, people are capable of doing the most extraordinary things, such as ignoring all danger, overcoming all fears, when they put all their conscious effort into it. Men and women have been badly wounded in war zones, or injured fighting a fire or in an accident yet have continued to help others - totally unaware of their own condition or injuries.So, we need to watch our thoughts [to avoid focusing on the thought of an urge] and shift the focus or our consciousness immediately onto to other things.Also be aware that unless we are promiscuous by nature, we are more likely to have those kinds of thoughts of urges when we've been and unoccupied, tired or when we are feelng low in spirits [due to anxiety, depression, anger, resentment etc].

So the things on which we should focus our attention are those which will raise our spirit. Meditation can do that; listening to calm, relaxing music can do that; thinking of a loved one and caring for others can do that; counting your blessings can do that; watching the natural world, reading about acts of personal courage, bravery and fortitude, kindness and compassion all do that; etc, etc. Notice all we have to do is shift our awareness onto the positive. That's one key out; the other key to freedom is to retain that positive outlook on life and aim to move it upward.

Strive to be happy